I have been feeling a little burnt out recently. I’ve struggled to find inspiration for blogging, studying, cooking, eating and looking after myself. As a result I’ve been neglecting the blog, getting behind on my studying, either skipping meals or eating rubbish, and feeling guilty about all these things, making me feel even more anxious. Everyone gets stuck in a slump (or a funk, as I like to call it) sometimes, and despite what you see on social media, life isn’t perfect for anyone. The trick is knowing how to get yourself out of a rut, should you find yourself in one.
A week or two ago I decided to work gently to get out of my funk, and not put pressure on myself to get perfect at everything, all the time. I thought I’d share with you some of the things I’m doing in the coming weeks, to get back on track and feel like myself again!
Unless you have deadlines from PRs or brands, it is not the end of the world if you don’t post for a week or two, or more. Be honest, if you’ve given yourself a personal task of 3 or 4 posts a week and you’re stressing out because of it…give yourself a break! Set aside time per week for writing and photographing posts, and work for quality, not quantity. Your readers will stick by you, and they’ll appreciate better content from a non-stressed blogger!
I’ve recently started studying for my Level 3 Personal Training qualification, and I’m finding it hard to get the balance between work, study and actual relaxation. I toyed with the idea of creating a Bullet Journal to organise my thoughts and my time, but realised I already have so many diary-type things I can use! I recently contributed to the Passion Planner kick-starter, and was sent one of their planners, which I’m going to use instead. I love the fact that the days are broken down into individual hours, which suits my varied work schedule. I’m trying to be creative with the spaces given, taking the time to make the pages colourful, adding a bit of mindfulness into my scheduling!
Hopefully, if I can see my schedule on paper, it will be easier to stick to, and I can get a better balance!
This has been a big one for me recently, I’ve been so uninspired by food that I’ve either skipped meals (BAD TASH) or been lazy with basic stodge or UberEats. As a result, I’ve been fatigued, achy and have unnecessarily lost a bit of weight. Not good! This is not an easy one to deal with, especially when you’re not a great cook, like me!
First things first, I bought a bunch of my favourite foods that are nutritious and easy to cook to stock up my fridge. Think simple stir fry ingredients, fish, vegetables, meat etc. planning in my head all my favourite easy meals for the days ahead. I’ve never been one for meal planning too far in advance, but I might try that too, writing down each meal I’m planning and on which day.
Next, I decided to go through my recipe books, get rid of the ones I never cook from, and highlight the nicest looking recipes from those I’m keeping. I’m moving soon (more on that in a minute) so the clear-out is needed anyway. With all these tasty looking recipes marked, all I have to do it pick a day and buy the ingredients.
Finally, with food, I know I have to be gentle. I’m never going to restrict myself to never eating a pizza or take-away again, because that’s unhealthy mentally in its own right, but I’m trying to lose the guilt associated with those treats. Once every two weeks, when I’ve not only taught but taken class as well? That deserves a treat. Every week when I’m simply too lazy to cook? That’s when I can be a bit more strict and make the effort to make something, even if it’s super simple. But Sundays are always for pancakes or waffles…
Finally, and this is another big one, look at the bigger picture. This can be scary. Is there something else happening that might be affecting the smaller elements of your life? I remember when I was younger and something upset me, my mum would notice if my reaction to the initial situation was too big, and she’d always asks what else was the matter. She was rarely wrong, and invariably I’d end up telling her all about something else that was happening which I’d been trying to hide.
So when I couldn’t get myself out of my funk, I looked at what else might be bothering me. After a lot of contemplation, more than I can go into here, I decided that I needed to make a big change…and that big change is to move, after 7 years in my current flat. Now, I didn’t come to this decision lightly, I’ve considered moving before but have always found a reason not to (budget, nothing available, too intimidating) but this time something was different. As soon as I started flat hunting and planning a move, I felt so much anticipation and my mood brightened. That increased further when I found a place I loved and got my rental offer accepted. Now I’m moving in less than a week and I couldn’t be more excited. My funk is lifting and I’m happy to be planning not only the new place, but also planning new business ventures and other things for my future.
Getting stuck in a rut can be scary, depressing, worrying and seemingly never-ending. For me to get out of the downhill spiral of negative feeling, I not only had to put more emphasis on the positive things in my life, but I also had to face those negative things and deal with them. Burying your head in the sand, or just ploughing through, might seem like a good solution, but it is only temporary. Change in itself is scary, but it is also cleansing, cathartic, and energising. I am looking forward to my new challenges, new space, new scenery, and getting my groove back, ready for 2017.
Credit for Photos 1, 5 & 6: Will Patrick